Being Rattled

”If someone comes along and shoots an arrow  into your heart,  it’s fruitless to stand there and yell at the person.  It would be much better to turn your attention to the fact that there’s an arrow  in your heart…”  Pema Chodron

Have you ever had someone talk AT you?  There are times when people harbor frustration, then, without warning they harshly express what’s on their mind. Their fighting words can catch you off-guard and ignite a rattled feeling.  It strikes an inner-core of familiar yet uncomfortable feelings; feelings of unworthiness or helplessness.

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Gathering Ourself

“All emotions are pure which gather you and lift you up: that emotion is impure which seizes only one side of your being and so distorts you.”
Rainer Maria Rilke

I enjoy days when my thinking is clear. I feel inspired, energized and my words just seem to flow naturally. This is my “in the zone” time.  But then there are the low-energy days when I am slow moving and my mind is cloudy. On those low-energy days I feel unfocused and it’s a challenge to get things accomplished.

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Just a Thought Away

What is it that destroys a love connection?  Over the past years of working with people to restore the relationships they have with themselves and others, I’ve realized that we lose that love connection unknowingly.  It is a subtle cycle we may not be aware of.

It goes something like this:  An event happens causing us heartfelt discomfort. Let’s say you get pulled over for not fully stopping at a stop sign. As the policeman is walking over to your car you begin to feel the sting of embarrassment.  The depth of loss of pride and self respect rings loud and clear.  You re-act by getting angry at the police officer for being unfair. You firmly believed he was wrong.  You tried to convince him about this, but his point of view became a muddled distortion. You were steaming inside.  Maybe you don’t literally throw eggs at the police car, but your confrontational words do.  Or maybe you don’t even outwardly show anger, but you go home and take it out on yourself internally or the people you most care about.

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Listen to Your Discontent

“Discontent is the first necessity of progress.” 
Thomas Edison

Don’t let discontent linger for too long!

Muhammad Ali said, “Often it isn’t the mountains ahead that wear you out, it’s the pebble in your shoe.”  Imagine you are walking down a pathway enjoying the beautiful scenery. At some point along the way, a little pebble gets in your shoe. After walking a few feet you realize it has become very uncomfortable. In order to continue your walk untroubled, you decide to stop a moment to remove the aggravating pebble. The discomfort was your signal to pause and adjust yourself. When you listen to your feelings of discontent, “your unhappy can make you a little bit wiser”.

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